Decades down the line, spanking kids to remind them to stay on the course had declined. However, yelling seems to be an undisputed replacement of spanking. Almost every parent has found themselves in a compromising situation where they yell at the kids. Well, in most instances it does not work. Unfortunately, yelling does not make you a good parent either does it make the kids respectful. What it does best is to prove parental stupidity and raise deviant and broken kids. Studies have shown that regular shouting at kids raises kids with mental problems.
The CDC believes that mental health in childhood can make them accomplish emotional and developmental milestones and enable then learn different and healthy social and problem-solving skills. Unfortunately, yelling at kids only increases the chance of mental disorders such as depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and low self-esteem.
A 2014 study published in the Journal of children development reported that households that have highest yelling incidents produced kids with high levels of stress, depression, and anxiety not to mention a couple of behavioral problems associated with shouting. These are reasons enough to stop yelling at your kids. They might appear as innocent and frightened little angels when you do that. However, deep down within them, yelling breaks them and builds individuals who see no fun in living and interacting with adults.
In a personal interview with a parent, Julie admitted feeling awkward and guilty after an episode when she yelled at her kid, Katie. After the unfortunate event, Julie questioned whether it was a good decision. She recounted episodes of her being depressed, and she promised never to do that again. Yes, yelling does not make you authoritative. It makes you look like you are out of control of your kids. It is a proven and overt sign of your weakness as a parent. While unruly children can be a parental pain, yelling does not do any good in solving the status quo. You can scare off your kids by screaming at them.
Having researched and experienced the impacts of yelling, we set out on a mission to make the world of parenting happy. Here are 10 reasons why you should stop yelling to your kids. Hopefully, engage other effective parental disciplinary channels and techniques but drop screaming or yelling from the list.
1. Yelling is a signal of fighting and induces the same feeling as physical punishment. Whether a single mother or not, you can already tell that yelling to a child has no impact. Instead, it makes them sad, feel unloved, and insecure. When a child decides to be defiant, you can always scream all you want, but it will land on deaf ears.
2. It's embarrassing. Yelling has no boundary. At times you can do that when your kids have friends or classmates around. Such words cut through the emotions of the children. You will find the child leaving the playground or room for hiding because they are embarrassed.
3. It affects the emotional, psychological, and mental development of your child. Whether due to the embarrassment, humiliation, or constant fear generated through yelling, the kids can greatly be affected. Studies have shown that screaming at your kids can lower their self-confidence and self-esteem. They drop their trust in adults, and this easily pulls them into anxiety, depression, and stress. Such kids grow up as aggressive individuals who transition to be perpetrators of abusive relationships and domestic violence. You do not want to be the parent who pushed the kids into violence, do you? Well, stop the yelling now.
4. Kids always learn from seeing. Everything the children experience while growing is an excellent learning opportunity. You also know that you are the best role model for your child. In their early developmental stages, children take the words, signs, and body language as a lesson. A child who receives calm instructions develops better and is more disciplined compared to the one who is constantly yelled at. Always lead by example, let the kids adopt the best behavior from you.
5. It makes you (the parent) weak and stupid. Yelling at your kid does not make them take you seriously. Also, screaming at the kids does not make you command respect from them. When you scream on top of your voice, you cause your body unnecessary stress. Besides, a rational person observing you will conclude that you are weak and stupid as a parent.
6. The kids feel helpless when yelled at by adults or parents. Let’s admit it, as a parent you always expect that the kid does not talk back, disrespect you, or ignore you. However, there are instances when you might need the feedback. Yelling for feedback makes the kids feel helpless as they cannot express themselves in the best way. It makes such kids less assertive. Even when the parent is wrong, the kids will take the yelling as a sign of authority. It strains the relationship between the parent and the child.
7. Calm is also normal, so embrace alternatives. Try a different approach to disciplining the kids. Talking to the kids calmly will make them internalize the pieces of advice from the parent. In households where the yelling incidences are many, resorting to calm talking often restores things to normalcy. You can use the ABC method of praise. It helps you approach your kids with a smile on the face and be cheerful when instructing them. Calmness builds the best habits in kids, and it cements the relationship with the parents and other people in society.
8. Yelling makes the children less respectful to authority. You will not stay with your child forever. As the kids grow, they interact with different levels of authority. However, if they are only used to yelling as the only means of receiving instructions, they never pay attention to authorities when handled calmly. They will only act if they are yelled at, because to them yelling means business.
9.Shouting or Screaming at kids is terrifying. Yelling creates some fear factor in the kids. Whenever they sense high pitched or seemingly screaming tones, such children often get frightened as if they did something wrong. It makes them frightened every time, and this can affect their self-development. The rift between the kids and the parents increases when they are yelled at, and they develop emotional scars when they see their peers.
10. Physical abuse, yelling, and mental torture are synonymous. When you fight, expect the same results. Similarly, when you yell at your kids expect self-defense or negative Yelling begets conflict in the home, and the kids cannot take it lightly that it is a fight with their dear parents. You are supposed to be the guardian and protector to the kids. Beating them will make them see violence as the only way to assert control and enforce ideas. Even when ordered to do stuff they should do as kids, it always reaches a time when they talk back and become defiant. You can do anything including physical punishment, but it is of no benefit at this point. Please don’t wait for it to escalate that high, avoid yelling at your kids while there is still time.
A happy world can be achieved by stopping to yell at your kids. The 10 genuine reasons to stop yelling at your kids are meant to make your parenting smooth. We expect that when you pursue other instruction giving methods like being calm, your relationship with the kids will improve. Create a healthy growth and development environment for your kids through avoiding yelling or screaming at them at all cost. We wish you the best of luck in your parenting.